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Let me tell you how I really feel!

Let me tell you how I really feel (as if that’s a rarity).  I really feel like women with husbands, who have been out of work for an extended period of time, need to pony up. That’s right, I said it! These women need to get off their asses and stop putting an enormous amount of pressure on your husband to find a new career or job – as if it’s not an extreme challenge for a man in his 40’s, 50’s or 60’s to reinvent himself?!  Go find a job yourself or consider increasing your workload.  It’s do or die in this economy… if my husband lost his job, effective immediately, I would haul my size ten rear end into New York City with the determination and drive to get back into the publishing industry. I would not quit as the burden of job loss would become OURS, not his.  

Entitlement is one of the most ugly characteristics I know and it near sickens me to watch some families (mom and/or dad) bury their heads in the reality of what their financial situation truly is.  We all wish and believe we deserve a life well lived.  It just has to be well earned.
 
So, if you’re in a situation such as this, and I know SO many who are, trust yourself to know that you’re smart enough and strong enough to help make up for the monies that may have been lost.  Consider this job opportunity with Dillon Road, even IF you are gainfully employed.  Watch how one woman starts and ends her day knowing that she has gained in more ways than one.
 
                                                                     
 
I continue to applaud women who have joined a Sales Team, earned a Realtor’s License, gone back to work in Human Resources, become Interior Designers or Event Planners, all for the sake of financial independence- rather than spousal dependence.
 
We are just as capable as men. Please don’t ever sell yourself short or think otherwise.
 
Bradi
Co-Founder and Mother
Work/Life Advocate
 
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9/11… in Memory

As you are well aware, the 10th anniversary of the attacks on America took place this past September 11th.  Like most, I sat idol and watched the children, no older than my own, read their daddy’s names aloud, and proud, in memory. When tragedy strikes, one often remembers the exact moment and location, or even the smell of the brand new carpet that one was sitting upon.  I remember kneeling down to fold the laundry on my cool basement floor in front of the television – my son Jack had just drifted off for his morning nap. I was all of two footie-pajamas in before my hands transferred from the precious little clothes I was folding to cover my gaping mouth.  While Jack continued to sleep peacefully upstairs, I watched in horror as the events of 9/11 unfolded before my very eyes.

I am so deeply sorry to all of the wives, children, and parents, whose men (and women) did not return home that night- like mine did from some 50 blocks away.  I cannot begin to imagine the devastation that all of the victims and their families endured. I would be lying if I said I could.  Although, this past Sunday, as I watched the memorial of 9/11, this time from a new house, with my 11-year old son Jack by my side, I saw faces of hope rather than faces of fear.  I witnessed an inner-strength- one that rebuilds, remarries and some day, remembers with peace.


blog was posted to Butterfly on September 11, 2011, at 4:19pm by Ira Mitchell-Kirk, mother of three.  It is a posting depicting a work of art that denotes a journey, Ira’s journey.  Stare at it for a moment- you will see this inner-strength blowing in the leaves and may be reminded that, life is an unpredictable journey.  Life is truly a gift.

In Love and Warmth,
Bradi
Co-Founder and Mother
Work/Life Advocate
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Irene is a B!tch!

Irene is a b!tch! There, I said it.  This awful being caused the cancellation of our family flight home from the west coast and delayed my recent blog posts!  She also caused the upheaval of so many friends and family as we took in un-housed guests of our own.  Such community damage tends to bring out the best in people with grand gestures of kindness and a willingness to help.  I do hope those of you who were affected leaned on your network of friends and family to get you through this difficult time, the same way we lean on one another at Butterfly.

With Irene behind us, and the anniversary of the catastrophic date of 9/11 ahead, perhaps we enter into a new school year and a new season with a sliver of renewed hope.  Catherine McCord, Founder of Weelicious.com, admits that her life changed when the towers came down on September 11th.  Catherine decided at that moment that it was time to move away from modeling and acting to pursue her real passion- culinary school! Sometimes it takes a disaster for one to re-evaluate a journey and to know that we go through different stages in life, with different careers.  Catherine went to culinary school at night and argues that moms can do it all.  With two children and as the Founder of Weelicious, Catherine is joyfully serving up, “fast, fresh, delicious recipes for the entire family.” Watch Butterfly’s video interview with Catherine McCord here.

Irene is a b!tch, and the memory of 9/11 is still painfully heart-wrenching.  But, use Catherine as an inspiration that something wonderful can grow from something so horrific.

To you and your family, warm wishes in the wake of 9/11 and a speedy recovery to all of Irene’s victims.

Bradi

Co-Founder and Mother

Work/Life Advocate

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Informational Interviews. Worth it or No?

When I graduated from Ithaca College, like many, I did not have a clear vision of what I wanted to do.  I remember my mother driving me into New York City, and then waiting in the car, so that I could go on a few “informational interviews.”  I don’t recall being nervous but I do recall the hideous bone-colored suit and matching shoes that I adorned.  The beauty of these “sit-downs” came from the exploratory information that was both gained and shared.  I was able to learn more about the business and the interviewee, hopefully looking passed my beige get-up, learned more about me.  There is TREMENDOUS value in Informational Interviewing.  According to Butterfly’s Career EXPERT, Dorothy Tannahill-Moran:

“Informational interviewing is essential in today’s competitive job market.  It can help you get in front of the big decision makers long before they know they need to hire you – and then when the moment is right – they remember YOU!”

So… Join Dorothy and us for an interview with Brent Peterson, CEO of Interview Angel (www.interviewangel.com). Brent Peterson will provide you with insights on informational interviewing that you won’t want to miss!

In this FREE teleseminar you will discover:

  •   What is informational interviewing and what makes it so important to us all?
  •   How is it different than interviewing and why do you need to know the difference?
  •   How do you land an informational interview in an open, honest way?
  •   How do you prepare for an informational interview, so you leave a powerful impression?
  •   And much more!

Take action and register for FREE: http://www.eventbrite.com/event/1866507775/li

 

Event Details

Date: Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Time: 5:30pm Pacific/8:30pm Eastern

Access: All you need to participate is a phone.  Register and you will be sent the call-in number and access code via email prior to the call.  Also, enrolled participants will receive a FREE MP3 downloadable recording of this session following the seminar.

*Career Studios are owned and operated by Chris Perry & Dorothy Tannahill-Moran

 

Enjoy,

Bradi

Co-Founder and Mother

Work/Life Advocate

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Summer Lovin’

Summer congers up images of sand, surf, swimming, sailing and perhaps the thought of, some serious sweating.   Summer is a season that I most enjoy (except when I have to work inside on the most magnificent of days) and Summer is the name of a woman I so admire.  I had the great pleasure of interviewing Summer Sanders, U.S. Olympic swimmer, Celebrity Apprentice contestant, TV Personality and mom of two. Call it ironic but, Summer won gold medals in the 200-meter BUTTERFLY- clearly we were destined to meet.

During MyWorkButterfly’s interview, Summer revealed how hard it was to leave her son and daughter for one month while working and helping to raise money as an Ambassador for her much adored not-for-profit, Right to Play.  “Right to Play improves the lives of children in some of the most disadvantaged areas of the world by using the power of sport and play for development, health and peace.”  How’s that for mentoring her children?

Use Summer to inspire your own wishes and dreams, know that your children will love you if your work or passion should lead you away temporarily.  Get rid of the guilt and hook up with Summer and follow your dreams of parenting and productivity.

Become inspired too by the wonderful blogs from fellow Butterfly moms:
Music to Job Search by, by Carol Camerino
Following Through, by Julie Cole
Child Safety Tips, by Jill Starishevsky

Inspirationally yours,
Bradi
Co-Founder and Mother
Work/Life Advocate
MyWorkButterfly.com
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Suicide- A Young Girl Kills Herself

A beautiful young girl took her own life due to high-pressured academics in our achievement obsessed-culture, inspiring a filmmaker to create change in her MUST SEE documentary entitled, THE RACE TO NOWHERE. Add to academics, multiple team sports, AP classes, community service, an instrument (if they dare), religious school, and we’ve created quite a recipe. A recipe for: panic attacks, eating disorders, stress related illness, depression, and yes, the potential for suicide in our own children.

THE RACE TO NOWHERE allows viewers to hear from educators, students, college recruiters, psychologists and parents, all agreeing that kids are pushed too hard and too fast. I’m guilty of it. I admit that I “race” my kids from one activity to another, leaving little time for free play, family dinners and long conversations that involve something other than homework, tests and upcoming sports. Why then, if I did not grow up this way, am I setting a precedent to my children that over-scheduling is simply a way of life? I believed, pre-screening, that I was trying to do what was best for my son and daughter- in giving them the opportunity to do it all. Post-screening, I carefully observed my daughter and stared into her allergy-ridden face baring blood shot eyes, and said, “Why don’t you take a break from softball practice today?” I saw a sense of relief wash over her as she plopped down on the couch for some much-needed downtime.

I am now a concerned mom and do believe that the potential of this movie to change our culture is great. So I ask, and please DO TELL, “How is the stress and pressure of trying to achieve it all, “in a race to nowhere,” affecting your children? Let us use this as a wake-up call… for the health of our kids!

You may sign the petition to end THE RACE TO NOWHERE. It starts like this:

“Quality teaching and learning cannot occur when students and teachers are stressed, unhealthy, and disengaged.”

I turned out okay (may be debatable to some) with a childhood void of Ivy League, AP courses, multiple sports per season and community service (don’t tell my kids!!). I wonder, perhaps I’ve launched two businesses, had a successful career in advertising, all because I sat down for a family dinner every night? It’s food for thought (no pun intended).

Very best,

Bradi

Co-Founder and Mother

Work/Life Advocate

MyWorkButterfly.com

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Post Mother’s Day. I Have Something to Admit.

As a follow-up to last week’s Weekly Wings, where I came clean about wanting the gift of “time” for Mother’s Day, I have something further to admit. The gift of time, I realize, is a gift that we must give to ourselves… when the time is right. What I thought I wanted on Mother’s Day, to spend some much-needed time alone at the gym, was trumped by my daughter’s sweet request to bike alongside me while I ran, so that we could have some “girl time.” Venturing off to exercise solo no longer seemed like the ideal gift rather, my daughter’s desire to be with mom was actually the best gift I could have ever received. Perhaps I will save my gift to myself for when both kids go off to college or for when being with mom is no longer deemed cool (although, I assure myself this will never happen). However you chose to spend your Mother’s Day, I do hope that it made you happy as well.
To follow are some wonderful new blogs, recently posted by fellow Moms and women alike:

Next, take a moment to meet June’s Mom Mentor, Paige Rien. Paige is the star of HGTV’sHidden Potential and has worked on such notable shows as Curb Appeal. A self-described “serial renovator”, this awesome mom of two boys juggles tools and toys. Watch our interview here!

Until next week,
Bradi
Co-Founder and Work/Life Advocate
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