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Let me tell you how I really feel!

Let me tell you how I really feel (as if that’s a rarity).  I really feel like women with husbands, who have been out of work for an extended period of time, need to pony up. That’s right, I said it! These women need to get off their asses and stop putting an enormous amount of pressure on your husband to find a new career or job – as if it’s not an extreme challenge for a man in his 40’s, 50’s or 60’s to reinvent himself?!  Go find a job yourself or consider increasing your workload.  It’s do or die in this economy… if my husband lost his job, effective immediately, I would haul my size ten rear end into New York City with the determination and drive to get back into the publishing industry. I would not quit as the burden of job loss would become OURS, not his.  

Entitlement is one of the most ugly characteristics I know and it near sickens me to watch some families (mom and/or dad) bury their heads in the reality of what their financial situation truly is.  We all wish and believe we deserve a life well lived.  It just has to be well earned.
 
So, if you’re in a situation such as this, and I know SO many who are, trust yourself to know that you’re smart enough and strong enough to help make up for the monies that may have been lost.  Consider this job opportunity with Dillon Road, even IF you are gainfully employed.  Watch how one woman starts and ends her day knowing that she has gained in more ways than one.
 
                                                                     
 
I continue to applaud women who have joined a Sales Team, earned a Realtor’s License, gone back to work in Human Resources, become Interior Designers or Event Planners, all for the sake of financial independence- rather than spousal dependence.
 
We are just as capable as men. Please don’t ever sell yourself short or think otherwise.
 
Bradi
Co-Founder and Mother
Work/Life Advocate
 

Jerseylicious, Bloggerlicious, it’s Octoberlicious!

Happy Blogtober!  I asked you to blog and blog you did. AND, since I am a woman of my word…. Here are some wonderful new blogs written by a few extraordinary Butterflies:

  1. It’s Not Fair, by Julie Cole, mother of SIX. Read about Julie’s stellar performance in “showing” her kids what IS and IS NOT fair.
  2. A Radical Way to Organize School Lunches by Evelyn Cucchiara, mother of three. Revealed- a step-by-step guide to school lunches made easy!
  3. Scraped Knees and Broken Hearts by Cheryl  Shireman, mother of  three and grandmother of one.  A MUST-READ piece about a mother/daughter journey in lessons of love.

 

October boasts more than inspiring and resourceful Butterfly blogs – October is the month to meet Gayle GiocomoGatsby Salon Owner, star of Jerseylicious, single mother and, oh so young looking, grandmother.  Get to know Gayle in our face-to-face video interview showcased on Butterfly’s homepage. Learn how this Jersey mom proved to herself, after losing her husband Daniel to a sudden heart attack, that she has was it takes to persevere as a successful single mother and business owner.

 

Ahh, October, also a time to embrace the season of Fall (not in a literal sense) and National Breast Cancer Awareness month– “Celebrating 25 Years of Awareness, Education and Empowerment.”  It’s a time to wish those who observe Yom Kippur – an easy fast, those who have off- a nice Columbus Day and to all Halloween goers- a spooktacular Halloween!

Bradi

Co-Founder and Mother

Work/Life Advocate

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Summer Lovin’

Summer congers up images of sand, surf, swimming, sailing and perhaps the thought of, some serious sweating.   Summer is a season that I most enjoy (except when I have to work inside on the most magnificent of days) and Summer is the name of a woman I so admire.  I had the great pleasure of interviewing Summer Sanders, U.S. Olympic swimmer, Celebrity Apprentice contestant, TV Personality and mom of two. Call it ironic but, Summer won gold medals in the 200-meter BUTTERFLY- clearly we were destined to meet.

During MyWorkButterfly’s interview, Summer revealed how hard it was to leave her son and daughter for one month while working and helping to raise money as an Ambassador for her much adored not-for-profit, Right to Play.  “Right to Play improves the lives of children in some of the most disadvantaged areas of the world by using the power of sport and play for development, health and peace.”  How’s that for mentoring her children?

Use Summer to inspire your own wishes and dreams, know that your children will love you if your work or passion should lead you away temporarily.  Get rid of the guilt and hook up with Summer and follow your dreams of parenting and productivity.

Become inspired too by the wonderful blogs from fellow Butterfly moms:
Music to Job Search by, by Carol Camerino
Following Through, by Julie Cole
Child Safety Tips, by Jill Starishevsky

Inspirationally yours,
Bradi
Co-Founder and Mother
Work/Life Advocate
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8 Tips on How to Find a Successful Home Business


Butterfly asked and you answered! We wanted to know, “What is single biggest challenge you face as a working mom?” Top three answers: TIME (not enough), BALANCE and MONEY (providing for my family). Today we’re going to address the concern over MONEY!

To follow are 8 Tips on how to find a Successful Home Business:

  1. Length of Time in Business ~ Do not invest time or money into any home business opportunity that has not been successfully in business for at least five years. Most scams and bad business opportunities will not make it to the five-year mark. Often new businesses will crop up with a slogan such as ‘ground-floor opportunity’ or ‘get in early’ – major red flag!
  2. Proven Business System & Free Training ~ Is there a proven business system you can duplicate and get up and running quickly? Don’t spend your time “reinventing the wheel.” Support is KEY. Join a team that stands by this concept. Members should have access to a resource center and tools to succeed.
  3. Hyped Guarantees ~ Watch out for business opportunities that guarantee you will make hundreds, thousands, or millions of dollars, in a specific amount of time.
  4. Credibility ~ PLEASE check if company has a good standing with the Better Business Bureau. Don’t base your decision on opinion or Internet reviews. Get the facts.
  5. Products/Services ~ Every business has a product or service – choose something that people will need and continually repurchase. This will help you in getting new customers as well as build residual income from current customers. Residual income is the best kind of income.
  6. Joining Fees ~ Most legitimate home businesses are not free to start, but the ability to get all the facts should be. It’s not necessary to spend hundreds or thousands of dollars in start up fees or products. Beware of front-end loading companies that require “Distributors” to purchase the majority of the products, not the end consumer. The company makes the majority of their profits from new distributors buying a lot of product up front or to “Get To” or “Maintain” a status.
  7. Website ~ Odds are you will need a website to market your business. There may be a slight cost here, but make sure you have access to one that can be provided at an inexpensive fee. Unless you know website design, this is a must.
  8. Compensation Plan ~ Ask if the company prints the average annual and monthly income statistics for each level you can achieve. They should have nothing to hide. Look for a company where you can continue to grow based on your efforts and hard work. Avoid buying status or monthly quotas.

Use these essential elements when deciding which home business will last long-term and help you achieve the results you envision.

The company we found that meets the above criteria for a successful home business can be found at MomCareerOnlineMomCareerOnline is absolutely RISK FREE and again, meets ALL eight criteria listed above. This is a win-win situation, so at the very least, check out the details. You have nothing to lose and a whole lot to gain if working from home is your goal. Some want a little extra income and others, a fulltime career income. The system is in place if you truly want a way to be at home with your little ones, add to your family income or replace an income. You will be impressed with the integrity, professionalism and support of this team. I know I am. Get the details now at MomCareerOnline.

Warmly,
Bradi
Co-Founder and Mother
Work/Life Advocate
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Suicide- A Young Girl Kills Herself

A beautiful young girl took her own life due to high-pressured academics in our achievement obsessed-culture, inspiring a filmmaker to create change in her MUST SEE documentary entitled, THE RACE TO NOWHERE. Add to academics, multiple team sports, AP classes, community service, an instrument (if they dare), religious school, and we’ve created quite a recipe. A recipe for: panic attacks, eating disorders, stress related illness, depression, and yes, the potential for suicide in our own children.

THE RACE TO NOWHERE allows viewers to hear from educators, students, college recruiters, psychologists and parents, all agreeing that kids are pushed too hard and too fast. I’m guilty of it. I admit that I “race” my kids from one activity to another, leaving little time for free play, family dinners and long conversations that involve something other than homework, tests and upcoming sports. Why then, if I did not grow up this way, am I setting a precedent to my children that over-scheduling is simply a way of life? I believed, pre-screening, that I was trying to do what was best for my son and daughter- in giving them the opportunity to do it all. Post-screening, I carefully observed my daughter and stared into her allergy-ridden face baring blood shot eyes, and said, “Why don’t you take a break from softball practice today?” I saw a sense of relief wash over her as she plopped down on the couch for some much-needed downtime.

I am now a concerned mom and do believe that the potential of this movie to change our culture is great. So I ask, and please DO TELL, “How is the stress and pressure of trying to achieve it all, “in a race to nowhere,” affecting your children? Let us use this as a wake-up call… for the health of our kids!

You may sign the petition to end THE RACE TO NOWHERE. It starts like this:

“Quality teaching and learning cannot occur when students and teachers are stressed, unhealthy, and disengaged.”

I turned out okay (may be debatable to some) with a childhood void of Ivy League, AP courses, multiple sports per season and community service (don’t tell my kids!!). I wonder, perhaps I’ve launched two businesses, had a successful career in advertising, all because I sat down for a family dinner every night? It’s food for thought (no pun intended).

Very best,

Bradi

Co-Founder and Mother

Work/Life Advocate

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My Mother’s Day Bitch-fest

What I want for Mother’s Day doesn’t come in a pretty blue box. You can’t bottle it, touch it or determine its worth in cents or dollars.

The week before last was Spring Break around here, which meant that my two kids were off from school while my husband remained at work. (You catch my drift?) The night before my children were to return to school from break, my son came down with a horrid stomach virus.  One week with two offspring by my side was followed by another week with one who remained home.  Throw in a trip to the hospital for IV, night terrors and the consecutive waking of offspring number two (all while working from home) and you have one mommy who knows exactly what she wants for Mother’s Day.

This is my B!tch-fest and I know you each have yours.  Are we allowed to complain? Does complaining of sheer exhaustion and the desire for two kids to be in school make me a bad mom? HELL NO!!! It makes me, like most, yearn for the one gift that the words “I love you Mom!” written in crayon font, simply cannot offer. And that, my friends, is the GIFT OF TIME!

So if it’s time that we’re after this Mother’s Day, let’s take it! How will we achieve the gift of TIME?

  1. We will not ask, rather, tell.  Tell our husband, boyfriend, mom or friend that we need TIME. TIME to go for a walk, TIME to read, TIME to get a massage, TIME to go for a bike ride, TIME to hike, sleep, or TIME to bury ourselves in a box of cookies without being judged!
  2. We will not fold, rather, ignore. Let’s skip the laundry, not waste TIME making the beds or cleaning the house. We will go out when the kids are at school. It’s okay if we do something for ourselves and not for them this TIME.
  3. We must simplify, rather than multiply.  Multiple sports, carpools, birthday parties and commitments leave us with little to NO TIME!  Let’s designate one sports free, non-carpool driving, birthday party singing day and get someone else to do it so that we can have TIME.  We’ll lean on a friend, neighbor, class mom, sibling, and ask (beg if we must) for them to pitch in to help stop the insanity at least for one day.  This will give us the much-needed TIME to do anything other than food shop.

What I want for Mother’s Day this year is TIME. It’s the best gift we can give to ourselves and in turn, to our families. The gift of TIME may make us better Mothers (I know… hard to imagine) and for some, better lovers.  (Wink-wink!). Have a wonderful Mother’s Day because you, WE, deserve it!

Warmly,

Bradi

Co-Founder and Mother

Work/Life Advocate

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Who said, Nothing in Life is Free?

Did you know that you are able to upload local events and happenings for all to see, and attend, on Butterfly for FREE? Consider marking down the following events on your April calendar. To me, April represents spring sports and carpool chaos! But, I hope you too will carve out additional time this month for yourself and for your family:

 

After you’ve checked out the events, become engaged in the insightful conversations going on within the 122 groups, formed by fellow Butterfly members or start one of your own around a given topic, for FREE:

Mentoring Moms: This group is all about mentoring Butterfly Moms to help them get started in a business they can call their own. What do you need? What challenges do you face? How can we help one another?

 

 

 

Back to College Moms: This is a group for moms who have decided to go back to college to earn or finish a degree.

 

 

 

 

Direct Sales Moms: Moms working in, or contemplating, a direct sales biz face challenges specific to the industry. Share ideas, learn from one another, and better understand how to grow and succeed in direct sales.

 

 

 

It may not seem as if you have time for events and some good old fashion conversation.  However, from one mom to another, we do.

 

Best,

Bradi

Co-Founder and Mother

Work/Life Advocate

MyWorkButterfly.com